Model lists ‘downsides of being pretty’ after being told she’s ‘too pretty’ – and the huge difference in how she’s treated when she doesn’t put in the effort
- The model talked about the “disadvantages of being beautiful”
- Emily Adona shared a series of TikTok videos about her negative experience
- Emily claims she was sexually assaulted and people don’t take her seriously
- “Privilege is a thing, but it has flaws,” she said
A model and business owner who has been told she’s “beautiful” all her life has opened up about the “downsides of being beautiful”.
Emily Adona, who lives in Californiainadvertently caused a stir online after discussing a serious experience.
In the series TikTok videos Emily claims she was sexually assaulted by a stranger and says people didn’t take her seriously in the past.
“Pretty much privilege is a thing, I’m not here to deny that, but it has its downsides,” she said.
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California resident Emily Adona (pictured) says she is “sick of being beautiful” because of the “disadvantages” of beauty privilege. In a series of TikTok videos, Emily claims she was sexually assaulted by a stranger and says people have not taken her seriously in the past
“I’ve never worked at a job where I wasn’t bothered. “I rarely got into social situations without being harassed,” says Emily.
“People usually don’t take no for an answer with me because they think I need to be owned.
“People don’t ask before touching me in public, I get grabbed regularly, I’ve been assaulted by a stranger.”
Emily claims she once passed up a business opportunity because others thought she was “too young and pretty” and thought she “would be a distraction to other people in the industry.”
“I’ve never worked at a job where I wasn’t bothered. I’ve rarely been in a social situation where I haven’t been harassed. “People usually don’t take no for an answer with me because they think I need to be owned,” claims Emily
Emily said she’s also noticed a difference in how others treat her when she’s dressed up compared to when she’s wearing casual clothes.
“I’m treated differently and it’s night and day when I go out in public wearing a mask and old tattered, oversized clothes and looking like I do now,” she said.
“When I look ripped, people don’t touch me, they don’t feel entitled to me.”
In the following video, Emily claims that often when she talks about a negative experience, she’s asked questions like “what were you wearing?”, “were you too nice?” and “why were you alone?”
“This idea that because I’m present and I’m beautiful that there’s a sense of entitlement to that space or that I’m automatically associated with something sexual is the part that I don’t like,” she said.
“People say, ‘Well, you’re a model, so you must be used to the attention or you need the attention.’ That’s what you’re doing it for?’, no.’
In a third video, Emily admitted that she was “sick of being beautiful” and decided to get a rose ring and a tattoo on her arm that was “culturally designed to destroy beauty.”
Emily said she’s also noticed a difference in how others treat her when she’s dressed up compared to when she’s wearing casual clothes. “I get treated differently and it’s night and day when I go out in public wearing a mask and old tattered, oversized clothes and I look like I do now,” she said.
The original video has been viewed more than 279,000 times and the topic seems to have divided opinion.
“Girls who are unattractive by societal standards are also harassed in most social and professional situations. not much of a side effect of privilege,” one person wrote.
“Why do beautiful women think that only beautiful women are attacked?” – commented another.
But a third woman stood up for Emily and wrote: “There are so many haters out there. They only hate you because you are beautiful; they partially prove your point without even realizing it.’
Another said: “The downside is everyone doesn’t take your pain seriously because you’re pretty so ‘it’s not that bad’ and they don’t care because of jealousy.”
“That’s right – everyone has problems. Everyone deserves to be heard without comparison,” another woman added.
If you need help, you can get help in Australia by calling the National Sexual and Family Violence Advice Service, 24 hours a day on 1800 737 732.