Things were looking bleak for several toxic couples the most recent 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After?

Kimberly Menzies’ attempt to win over Usman Umar’s mother has blown up in her face.

It wasn’t her fault. How could she impress a woman who didn’t approve of it before they even met?

The proposed “compromise” was a non-starter for Kimberly. Usman knew this, but still got angry – and insulted her.

In Season 7 Episode 9, Kimberly tried to explain why her gift wasn’t a “bribe.”

She felt offended and burst into tears at the accusations.

Clearly, both the stress of Usman’s family’s hostile rejection and the awareness of their influence over him also played a role.

We’ve seen a lot of toxic relatives attack a potential partner in this franchise.

Usman did step up and protect Kimberly. He told them she was a good person.

Moreover, Usman resolutely emphasized that Kimberly had good intentions. I bought a cow as a gift, not as a bribe.

That’s when Usman’s family got the idea that Kimberly could never bear him children.

Unfortunately, they’re not even the only couple this season where toxic relatives have expressed a sense of entitlement over their children.

Although Usman, like everyone else, has a basic human right to reproductive autonomy, he does not even argue with them. His plan was always to have a second wife, and have children through her.

Usman’s mother wants more than just the promise of children later.

His first wife, according to her instructions, must be young, fertile and belong to the Hausa ethnic group to which she and Usman belong.

Later, as she “generously” allows, Usman can marry Kimberly or another middle-aged white American. If he should.

It turns out Usman’s mother is another parent on this show who is too concerned about what the neighbors say.

She admits to the camera that those around her “think that my son has mixed with Americans” and will move to the United States.

Osman and Kimberly do plan to bring him to America on a K-1 visa. But only if they can get engaged. And for this he needs his mother’s permission.

Usman’s mother gives an ultimatum.

He has to marry a Hausa girl.

After that he can do whatever he wants. At best, Kimberly could become his second wife.

On the way home, Usman does his best to stay cheerful.

He explains that he is trying to cheer Kimberly up and calm her down.

Meanwhile, she is recovering from an unfortunate encounter. It turned out even worse than they feared, which says a lot.

But while “Sojaboy” wants to see Kimberly in a good mood, he also has to break the news to her.

Before kicking them out of the house, his mom made it clear.

His first wife, she ordered, should be a young Hausa woman. Kimberly was supposed to come later.

Usman admits that he feels completely indebted to his mother for this.

It’s a cultural expectation. Also, realistically and especially given his means as a “famous” rapper, it’s a choice.

Simply put, Usman is unwilling to go against his mother’s wishes – even if it costs him Kimberly.

But neither the one nor the other one gives up.

He suggests that they both sleep and rest, and come back to the matter tomorrow when their heads are clear.

Usman hopes that he will be able to come up with a solution.

The next day, Usman and Kimberly sit down to talk.

During the conversation, Usman gets a manicure and he and Kimberly point out the difference in cost.

Kimberly’s nails cost about $150. (However, to be honest, they look absolutely gorgeous this season)

After a good night’s sleep, Kimberly seems at least a little more positive.

But she makes it clear that she will not become a second wife under any circumstances.

Her suggestion is that she and Usman tell his mother together. Once they’ve communicated their plans, they can go from there. right?

But Usman says Kimberly is “disrespectful” about her set boundaries.

Once again, as he insisted a few episodes ago, Usman claims that Kimberly doesn’t compromise as much as he does.

That’s right – we hear Usman reiterate the idea that he’s making sacrifices while being with Kimberly.

According to Usman, the thirsty hotties in his DMs mean he has plenty of options.

What he means is that he has better prospects than Kimberly to move on. So somehow, he makes her a benefit.

But when Usman points out that he could have been with these “beautiful and sexy women” but chose to prefer Kimberly instead, his offensive meaning is clear.

So let’s get down to it.

Usman prefers his mother’s demands. He brags about how many young beauties want his deliciousness.

And it probably sounds like Usman was just helping that being with Kimberly is a sacrifice. To my ears, it sounds like he just called her “ugly.”

Usman used to brag like that. And earlier he insulted her to her face.

Kimberly feels hurt and leaves.

Meanwhile, Usman keeps going and going and going.

Usman at least claims that if this is the end of their relationship, he will regret it.

But he adds that Kimberly will regret their breakup more than he does.

why? Because his “DM is full of young, beautiful, rich ladies” who crave his deliciousness, apparently.

How could this be helpful to Kimberly?

Between Usman’s insults and how one-sided the relationship felt, and now his mother’s confrontation… it’s a battle.

Even if Kimberly “wins,” what will she take home at the end? Usman. A man who made it clear what he thought of her.