More from readers in the anniversary column – Press Telegram
This week the second part of my anniversary column celebrating 21 years of writing Successful Aging. So what have I learned from our readers? As noted last week, “ageism” was the topic that elicited the most responses from readers. Here are a few others.
Dressing your age: A recently retired lawyer shopped at two department stores and couldn’t find “anything (to wear) that would fit me.” She was interested in the concept of age-appropriate clothing. Another reader, who happened to be a lawyer, answered her question “who cares?” Another reader stated that it was a mistake to go to department stores instead of specialty stores. The concept of dressing for your age still exists. “I don’t like long hair on middle-aged and older women, and I think tattoos are the worst,” commented another reader.
Elder abuse and general frustration: This person was embarrassed by the treatment of her father-in-law by his new wife, with whom he had recently eloped. He suffers from dementia. Getting married without telling his children was out of character for him, according to his daughter-in-law. He was told that his children only wanted his money and were waiting for him to die. When he called his children and asked for help, his wife took the phone from him. Another reader shared her frustration at finding judges delaying cases until it’s too late.
Another exercise: How pickleball is all the rage, we have another time. It is lawn bowling, basically an outdoor sport that is characterized by speed and tactics, as recommended by Mr. M. It is similar to bowling where the players or bowlers roll the ball towards the target. This is a low-impact exercise therapy that can improve fitness, coordination and confidence. The The main objective of this game is to place the asymmetric ball as close as possible to a white billiard ball-like target called a Jack. This asymmetric ball moves in a curved trajectory. There are 2,800 bowlers organized in the United States seven geographical areas. To find a club near you, ccontact Southwest Lawn Bowls Association.
Aiming to: An example would be a woman involved in an organization that helps children of prisoners join the church. She also goes to garage sales to find baby clothes for the Pregnancy Resource Center. This focused, purposeful reader points out that “neighbors who just want to play games and/or travel exclusively are missing out on a lot of life after retirement.»
Podcasts: Here are two new podcasts for me. One is an online community of approximately ten million golfers age sixty and older called Fore! Sixty. They provide information about age appropriate golf equipment and news on fitness, nutrition, pain relief, sun protection and golfing with arthritis. Then there’s The EndGame, which encourages its audience of “chronically gifted” men and women to find joy and purpose in their remaining years, writes Mr. A, who hosts the session. He adds that “the podcast covers various aspects of positive aging, offers comfort and solutions to the challenges and arrows of aging, and illuminates the cultural barriers that make aging harder than it needs to be.” (Both podcast the hosts sent me an invitation to perform, but unfortunately I had to decline due to conflicts.)
Pieces: The 66-year-old writer/editor is considering writing articles or a practical advice column about aging, especially after her mother’s physical therapist expressed surprise at how she accepted her mother’s bedroom to its limitations. My answer is, “Sure, try it; practical advice is always appreciated.”
Then there is creativity. The 72-year-old reader leads teams in STEM programs that develop autonomous robots that catapult structures designed for children. He comments that “creativity grows with the more areas you explore.” Senior centers were suggested as a resource for finding caregivers, as were churches and synagogues. When describing financial services, it was recommended that the word “fiduciary” be included. And a Minneapolis newspaper editor wrote: “Our paper should carry your columns!”
So, dear readers, I continue to explore the challenges, victories, and wisdom you have shared. We all learn to shape these years to be the best we can be. To the best of my ability, I will continue to bring you the latest information, research, and perspectives on aging. And from time to time a bit of opinion and personal experience will be added.
Good health, joy and successful aging to each of you.
Helen Dennis is a nationally recognized leader in aging and new retirement with academic, corporate, and nonprofit experience. Contact Helen with your questions and comments at Helendenn@gmail.com. Visit Helen at HelenMdennis.com and follow her at facebook.com/SuccessfulAgingCommunity